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Created by The Core DJ's Jul 6, 2014 at 4:18pm. Last updated by The Core DJ's Jul 6, 2014.

[MEET HIM HALFWAY] Why MEN choose BAD Bitches over SWEET, genuine, WIFE material Women

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody

A woman asked me this today during my motivational speak to a room full of 130 Women. I told her,

“Males like self-proclaimed ‘bad bitches’ (SSBB), because she wants a man, but doesn’t NEED a man and she is simply not as emotionally high-maintenance as a sweet girl.

Sweet girls care so much, about everything & require even MORE emotionally. They have abandonment issues & trust issues that get aggravated when the man they like doesn’t give her enough deserved attention.

She will start to feel unwanted. Yet, she will not call the guy she likes out, in fear he’ll say:
“You’re crazy.”“You’re doing too much.”“Damn, stop being so over-emotional.”“See, this is why I’m unsure about us. You’re Expecting too much of me.”

Sweet girls suffer chronic migraine & anxiety attacks no one knows due to constantly being misunderstood, unheard & being made to feel she has to internalizing her feelings.

Sweet girls constantly fear the littlest thing she does or opens up about will be judged, scrutinized or scare the guy she likes away, so she apologizes for everything.

Sweet girls be like,

“Am I talking too much?”
“You don’t think I’m weird for saying that, do you?”
“Sorry, I know this is boring you.”
“I’m sorry if I’m annoying you, am I asking too many questions?”

This is how ‘or nah’ was born. These are passive suffixes sweet girls add to soften the blow of your subsequent judgements of her feelings. Being raised by a woman who always told her, ‘girl shut up’ or ‘no body cares’ led her to this being so gaurded.

We make our women feel like they have to apologize for merely existing.
Every fashion magazine you read keeps telling you how ‘ain’t shit’ you are.
Articles be like,
‘oh you’re still wearing those same shoes? Bitch, you ain’t shit.’
‘You’re still wearing your hair like that? Bitch, you ain’t shit.’
I hate the word bitch. Why is every word we call our woman an ANIMAL?

Bitch = dog. Nag = horse. Chick = bird. Slut = pig. Ass = donkey. Tits = cow utters. Pussy = cat. She’s a woman. Every man ever born, SHE created. Your God choose HER. RESPECT her, so she won’t apologize for her existence in life.

Any time she DOES find the back bone to speak her true feelings, it must be accompanied with a “lol” or “jk” to lighten up her assertions.

This annoys the hell out off men. That is why the guy you like ignores your texts.
He would rather have flirtversations with ‘bad bitches’ on Instagram,
instead of conversing with a sweet, caring, passive-aggressive, over emotional, over-apologetic woman like you.

When a sweet girl likes a man, she needs to hear from him everyday, every minute, just him and her, on some ‘The Notebook’ type shit.

If she texts him & he doesn’t respond within 2 minutes of her pressing “enter” in her mind, she’s like, “oh, ok, so you ain’t got time to text me back, but you got time to be over there, breathing air, existing and shit, living your life without me? You know what? Fuck you. I gave you my all. I gave you my heart, my WHOLE heart & you shitted on it & lit it on fire. I gave you whole my soul, and you…oh shit, he just texted me back! “Hey babe, I missed you:( wyd?” smh. Fail.

“I’ve been constantly told I’m too sweet and too easy by my girls who consider themselves, ‘bad bitches’,” one girl complained. “Sometimes I feel like I have to change the sweet person I am just to keep a guy. I hate how jealous I get of my girl and her man. It’s like I am happy for her, but she’s a bitch to guys and she’s rewarded. Where’s my reward for being sweet? Should I just be more like a bad bitch?

“Please no,” I pleaded. “It’s not that you are ‘too sweet’ queen. It’s just, what good is it to be sweet without being confident. The beauty of chocolate is that it combines the sweet taste of sugar with the bold confident flavor of cocoa.

A sweet woman who lacks self-confidence turns a guy off, because he knows she will try to make him her whole world and rely on his text to give life to her dead confidence level.

A confident woman does not rely upon the communication from a man to dictate how she feels about herself. She texts a man when SHE wants to. She’s not here for small talk. If it’s not about him planning a date, or to come swoop her up & spend time, she’s uninterested.

A confident woman does not allow a man to have her number for more than 2 weeks without a plan for a date being mentioned. A confident woman does not “friend zoning” a male admirer who she knows she doesn’t even consider a “real friend. A confident woman spends more time and energy in her career, ambition and financial efforts than she spends in social networking.

Sadly, when a woman is more focused on her ambition than she is communicating with a man, she’s called a “curve master”.

I constantly tell men,

‘The women y’all consider “curve masters” or “prudes” are not being “stuck-up”. She keeps her legs closed, because she knows the power IN it.

That girl who “curved” you has yet to be approached w/ the respect & confidence she seeks in a man. No shade. She just knows what she wants.

It is important we start valuing our women more on this realm, they were divinely chosen not only to be the vessels of life as mothers, but to be the portals of metaphysical power.

It is not your job to keep belittling her, putting her down, calling her names & making fun of everything about her you don’t understand.

Instead of telling our women, “stop being such a crazy, over-emotional bitch” let’s start telling our women,

“When will you awaken to the realization that your smile is meant to be permanent. You flash it like a camera, but it was meant to be a light. Moon you shine so bright, and I’m the spark that was put into your life, for me to make you my wife, into your soul, speaking life. Let go, allow our souls to ignite.”

“Ebrahim, I have been in a relationship for 5 months now and I just found out I was the side the whole time,” a Canadian-American woman complained. “He was cheating and didn’t even hide it well. I screen-shot all the convos he had with this girl from the United Kingdom, the stereotypical bad bitch type, and I feel more hurt from this man cheating emotionally than I ever have for a man cheating on me sexually.

Like, why do guys open up more to random girls online than they do to their own woman? Whenever I ask him how he’s doing, he always one word responds, ‘I’m good.’ Yet, when he was texting his little hoes online, he told this girl losing his uncle really hurt him, because that was his best friend and role model, and it affects his anger issues.”

A single tear formed in her eye, then, she started to cry and sob.

“Like, Ebrahim,” she continued, “why couldn’t he open up to MEI cared. I showed him love. I opened up to him, about my abandonment issues, being starved of love from my mom, always belittled and silenced by my family. I swear emotional cheating is the worst thing a man can do, and I just want to know why am I not good enough for a man to let me inside his heart?”

“On behalf of all men, I apologize to you queen, I said with a sigh. Hearing her testimony really struck a chord with me. “You deserve so much better.

Mentally immature males are hesitant to open up to a sweet girl, because he KNOWS once he does, she has the love and understanding to make him break down.

Males fear exposing himself emotionally. The world makes men think we have to hold in our emotions. Males will open up to a S.P.B.B., because she won’t make him cry or break down like he NEEDS to. His opening up will only lead to her stroking his ego, subsequently burying his emotions

See, a S.P.B.B. knows she can steal a sweet girl’s man, simply by playing into the playboy fantasy adolescent-minded males possess.

The 5-step Bad Bitch Guide to attracting a guy.

1. Emojis.


Half her conversation is in emojis, appealing to the visual nature of a male. She knows, the right combination of hearts, kissy faces & winks is the cheat code to unlocking the attention of a male.

2. Goofy banter.


This is where the SPBB has the sweet girl beat. Her conversation is always light, fun and goofy. She knows how to appease a male by pretending to like whatever he likes, be it sports, video games, gangster movies, trap music or criticizing other women. She’s fully aware that more than looks, men are attracted to a woman with a fun, goofy vibe.

3. Ms. Independent


A SPBB is quick to tell you how much she doesn’t need a man. How much of her own she has. Don’t worry about the fact she doesn’t pay all the rent where she lives. We’re in a down economy and she’s got her own *Neo voice*

And she doesn’t need a man for anything. If one acts up, she replaces him just as fast. In fact, she has more side hoes than any guy in her phone. The majority of which she met online. This is how she stays independent and so emotionally low-maintenance. She subscribes to the mantra “if a guy pays your way, he will think you OWE him something sexually.” Males in her life eat this up, happy they don’t have to treat her to a date.

4. Stroke his throbbing ego to climax.

a SPBB knows how to subtly post the right caption-selfie combination to arouse a male’s throbbing ego, for her to subsequently stroke.

She will post a revealing picture of her body, with an un-thirst–trap-like-caption, like,

“ugh, I’m getting fat, need to get in the gym more like this and tone”.

Meanwhile, in her picture, she’s wearing spandex boy shorts & a lingerie bra (not a sports bra) in her house (not at the gym).

Yet, somehow we’re supposed to believe she’s in a gym. She can’t spell “elliptical” trainer, let alone properly use one. But, it’s ok, and it’s not “thirsty” simply, because her picture caption is a goal, and a woman with goals is to be admired.

Here come all the thirsty males commenting on her picture, vying for her attention, hoping to get noticed. She posts her selfie, chooses the male-option who sucks the least, then stroke his ego.

“Aww thanks guys,” She says to all.
“Gotta stay fit ;)” she replies to a random girl, to make it seem like her post isn’t aimed at gaining male’s attention.
“You’re so sweet handsome,” she tells our lucky winner.

And what does he win? Vain, pointless, goofy convo with a bad bitch. Ah, but at least he didn’t have to sit through an hour-long convo with that sweet girl about her trust issues again, right? I think you’re starting to sense my heavily intentional sarcasm.


5. Never open up. Never show the real her.


A SPBB’s secret weapon is she never opens up to a guy about her true feelings. Her grandpa could have died last night, and she will still send a guy a #GoodMorning selfie like nothing tragic happened in her life.

She smiles so bright, yet she’s fighting demons every day, with noone to talk to about it. No one cares. And the ones who claim they want her time so badly, are always never there.

Guys be thinking girls are looking for a daddy figure in random men. Nah, she’s really looking to life for the nurturing mother she’s never had.

Self proclaimed bad bitches are really sweet girls inside. But she got tired of being trampled over, emotionally stepped on & having her sweet nature taken for weakness. So she decided to become emotionless. It’s not hard to be emotionless, when you legit don’t feel anything anymore.

When will the SPBB awaken to the realization she’s much more than the bad bitch she calls herself?
When will the sweet girl mentally mature into a sweet WOMAN and match confidence with her sweetness?

“Every song that’s hot features a guy saying, ‘I love bad bitches, that’s my fuckin problem,” a natrualista with glasses on complained. “It’s like if we don’t look like that, light-skinned, ass shot-having, perky boobs with cleavage showing, hazel eye contacts wearing, no cellulite possessing bad bitch, men don’t want us.”

“Males do not choose bad bitches over a sweet woman, they USE bad bitches over a sweet woman, because she does not challenge him to grow up like a sweet girl does,” I confessed. “Stay sweet. These males are trying to tell you they are not yet on your level of life maturity, but you refuse to listen.

A bad bitch will not require him to make her a wife, before making her a mother.
Sweet girls lowkey have baby fever. They will never admit they secretly hope for a “positive” on that pregnancy test. Grown ass little boys fear fatherhood, so he will choose a bad bitch over a good girl.

A bad bitch will not require a man to answer that ‘what are we’ text. In fact, she will never send it.
Sweet girls can literally know she’s not anywhere near ready for a relationship, yet she wonders what your intentions are with her. She knows she is wife material. She has her ring picked out. She has dress patterns screenshot. Her pinterest is full of home decor and bedding sets. She’s ready for marriage. Grown ass little boys fear faithful commitment, so he will choose a bad bitch over a good girl.

A bad bitch always knows the latest slang, latest song, and she’s seen the video. That outfit those vixens were wearing in it, she searched their Instagram names and has already order the dresses they wear. For this reason, a bad bitch is a trophy to a grown ass little boys.

Immature males care more about getting approval from OTHER MEN than they care about what a woman thinks. As suspect as this sounds, it is true. This is the number one reason he chooses a bad bitch over a sweet girl.

Men have this competition with each other, who can have the hottest car, who rock the hottest shoes, and who can have the hottest woman. Hip hop has coined this the century of the bad bitch, so no matter what an immature guy really wants, he will always choose a bad bitch over a sweet girls. Who wants a sweet girl anyway. A gentleman does. We hate this bad bitch phase with a passion.

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